Caring

My Dear Friends today I realize that I have not blogged for a long time and that shouldn't be. I should try to blog at least once a week but I been a little depressed. My mother is ill and my attention has gone to her and I have left thing slide and for that I'm so sorry. Today I received a beautiful phone call that touch my heart and made me realize that I need to continue doing God work and keep working. The call was from a mother that lost her son in Iraq. As some of you know when I send a quilt out I always send a letter it's just the way I do it. I write from the heart to let the families know that we do care for each of them and I try to always write a special messenge for the families. What comes out of my heart is what I write to the families. This one messenge I wrote was for the parents that lost their son but reaching out to the father. I only know what my heart was crying out to say and so I wrote the letter not know what this poor father was dealing with beside the death of his son. You see he is also in the military and his pain is deep more then anyone can imagine. None of us know what our soldiers go through to survive it is something that they keep bottle inside which eats at them. These are good men doing what needs to get done and then living with what happen in a country that life means nothing to them. He deals with what happen in Iraq and he deals with the lost of his son how much more can he deal with. Where is the help to bring him peace of mind? When we say we support our troops are they just words or do you really support our troops? My hearts goes out to these families for their pain will never go away. They live day by day trying to deal with all the pain and hurt all that is thrown at them and hoping that maybe one day they will be able to cope better. Those that reach out to God for help seem to get the strength they need to continue even with their broken hearts but they know they must for the sake of others. When a parent loses a child it's hard for we all know men want to fix things but how can he when his heart is broken also. How can he comfort his wife when he is hurting also. The pain is so deep for both of them. We as women reach out and hope someone will listen. It's not that we are looking for answer for we know God is the one with answers we just want someone to listen and not turn their back on you. The words "we understand what you are going through " is hurtful for those that lost a love one. No one really understands unless they walk those shoes. To hear the words in time you will heal or you need to move on are all hurtful words. Yes we mean well but it's not helpful. If we can't say anything just wrap your arms around them and let them know you are there for them. Time does not heal that broken heart that the parent are dealing with time only gives them a better way of hiding their true hurt feeling.

I also received an email from the grandmother that was helping raise her granddaughter. She email to tell me that her granddaughter received the quilt I sent her. The granddaughter read the letter I wrote her and sat silent for quite a while. It was a good quiet. She snuggled with the quilt for a while then told her grandmother she wanted to put it away so it didn’t get any dirt on it. She wrote I know it sound silly to have a material item to hold on to make you feel better but believe me I have seen it work. This is absolutely a beautiful quilt that she will cherish forever. All sign to me that I need to continue I need to not stop for many need to know we do care many need to be able to reach out and know someone will listen and care. For those of you that continue to help me I thank you from the heart for you are making it possible for me to continue to comfort the families’ thank you and God blesses. Your friend always Betty